Use this checklist to identify if you may be experiencing abuse:

1. Sexual Harassment

Sexual harassment occurs when someone violates boundaries through unwanted sexual advances, remarks, gestures, or actions. Here are key elements to remember:

Consent Matters:
Any act, gesture, or communication of a sexual nature that happens  without your clear and voluntary consent constitutes harassment.

Unwanted and Persistent:
If someone keeps sexually behaving persistently after you’ve ignored or told them to stop, it is harassment.

No Power Dynamics:
Age, authority, or hierarchy are not prerequisites for harassment—it’s about consent and respect.

Impact, Not Intent: The perpetrator’s intent doesn’t matter; what matters is the effect on the victim. Even if someone claims their comments were a joke, if it made you feel uncomfortable or violated, it’s harassment.

Boundaries Are Valid:
Everyone has the right to set boundaries and expect them to be respected. Harassment happens when boundaries are crossed.

Forms:

‘Quid pro quo’ sexual harassment

• “My supervisor/boss proposes that we sleep together before he could recommend me for promotion”

• “My professor told me that it’s either “kwarto” or “kwatro” (kwatro pertains to a failing grade).

Verbal Sexual Harassment

• “Miss pretty saan punta mo? Hatid na kita.” (Catcalling)

• “Hi baby ang daks mo!” (Catcalling)

• “My boss said during our meeting, I heard you’re really good at handling... things. Maybe you can handle me too.’” (Indecent Sexualized Innuendo)

• “You’re making it hard for the men/women to focus because you are being too hot.” (Indecent Sexual Remark)

• “A coworker shared an explicit story about their sexual escapades and said, ‘You should try this—it might spice up your life.’” (Sexualized Storytelling)

• “While I was working late, my manager said, ‘You know, the way you sit is so... inviting.’” (Suggestive Remark)

• “A classmate told me, ‘You’d look even hotter without that jacket on.’” (Suggestive Remark About Appearance)

• “My boss told me, ‘Looks like you’ve been working hard. Maybe you deserve some... personal attention.’"(Sexual Innuendo)

• “My classmate asked, ‘So, how many people have you slept with?’ and laughed when I didn’t answer.” (Inappropriate Question About Personal Life)

• “During lunch, someone asked me, ‘Are you still a virgin?’ even though it’s none of their business.” (Inappropriate Question About Sexual History)

• “In our class group chat a member told me,‘Wow, ang hot mo sa suot mong damit kanina. Hindi ko maialis ang tingin ko sa'yo.’" (Suggestive Remark About Appearance)

• “A colleague keeps asking, ‘Are you dating someone? What’s their name? What do they look like?’ even after I said I don’t want to talk about it.’” (Persistent Inquiry About Dating Life)

• “Someone I barely know keeps texting me, ‘What’s your home address? I just want to send you something.’” (Invasive Personal Question)

• “During lunch, a coworker joked, ‘Why are women bad drivers? Because there’s no road from the kitchen to the bedroom.’” (Offensive Sexist Joke)

• “A friend said, ‘What do you call a lesbian dinosaur? Lickalotapuss,” and everyone laughed while I felt embarrassed.’” (Homophobic Green Joke)

• “My co-worker cracked a joke, ‘Ang mga bakla daw, mahilig sa fast food. Bakit? Kasi gusto nila ‘chupa-chups!’” (Homophobic Green Joke)

• “My professor keeps saying, ‘Let’s meet alone after class to discuss your grades’, even though I’ve already said I’m uncomfortable with that. (Persistent Invitation to Be Alone)

• “A coworker repeatedly asks, ‘Let’s grab a drink after work—just the two of us,’ even after I said I’m not interested.” (Relentless Pursuit of Private Meeting)

• “My gym instructor said, ‘You’ve got great legs—I wouldn’t mind seeing them more often.’” (Unwarranted Remark About Body Parts)

• “Someone used my name in a sexually vulgar article or piece without my permission.”

• “Kamusta naman ang sex life mo?” (Indecent Sexual Questions)

• “Pang ilan mo na siya?/Pang ilan ka na sa mga nakasama niya?” (Indecent Sexual Questions)

Behavioral sexual harassment

• “I experienced a person making sexual gestures directed at me, specifically by mimicking a dry-humping motion using their body.” (Sexual Gesture)

• “I witnessed someone intentionally rubbing their genitals in front of me.” (Indecent Exposure to Sexual Act)

• “Someone made me watch them engage in other sexual acts without my consent at home, public or private vehicles, streets. schools/university, or office, etc.”(Indecent Exposure to Flashing)

• “While I was walking on the street, someone called out to me saying, Hi, Miss Sexy! Ganda naman ng legs mo!’ at sabay nag-whistle.’” (Catcalling and Wolf-Whistling)

• “While scrolling through my phone, I received a message from an unknown number that said, ‘Send me a sexy pic or else I’ll make one up and post it’. (Sexual Harassment via Text Message)

• “While I was sitting in the cafeteria, I noticed someone staring at my chest for several minutes with a smirk on their face.” (Intrusive Gaze)

• “While walking home, a man stopped in front of me, unzipped his pants, and exposed himself without saying anything.”(Indecent Exposure)

• “While waiting for the bus, a man stuck out his tongue and made licking motions at me while staring directly at me.” (Sexual Gesture with Mouth)

• “Someone walked past me and made a thrusting motion with their hips as they laughed.” (Sexual Gesture with Body)

• While I was sitting in a quiet corner of the library, I noticed a man in the corner staring at me while touching himself.” (Public Masturbation)

• “While walking up the stairs to catch the MRT, I realized someone was secretly taking photos under my skirt without my consent.”(Voyeurism via Camera)

• “Every time I leave work, I notice the same person following me from a distance and waiting outside my building.”(Physical Stalking)

• “I keep getting messages on all my social media accounts from someone I’ve already blocked, creating new accounts to contact me.”(Cyberstalking)

• “My professor constantly calls or sends me personal messages even in the middle of the night to seek for ‘support’.”(Boundary Violation)

• “My colleague/ supervisor/ subordinate keeps on seeking solace in me, often borderline sexual already.” (Boundary Violation)

• “Someone threw water at me to make my clothes appear see-through as a prank and filmed me without my consent.” (Filming Pranks)

• “Switching male and female bathroom signages”(Filming Pranks)

• “Filming ‘social experiments’ of touching women’s bottoms without their consent (Filming Pranks)

• “While walking to my car, someone tugged at my skirt, making me feel exposed.” (Pulling Clothes Up, Down, or Off)

• “At a party, someone jokingly pulled the strap of my dress down, saying they were ‘just kidding.’”(Pulling Clothes Up, Down, or Off)

Online sexual harassment

• “Someone sends me pictures or videos that are sexual in nature with which I do not consent to.”

• “My ex-boyfriend shared my nude photos online after we broke up, threatening me to get back together with him or he would spread them further.”

• “A person I met online pressured me into sending explicit content, promising love and commitment, and then later used the images to blackmail me."

• “In our group chat a member told me, ‘Wow, ang hot mo sa suot mong damit kanina. Hindi ko maialis ang tingin ko sa'yo.’"

• “Someone created a fake social media profile using my pictures and posted sexually explicit content under my name.”

• “I received an email from an anonymous sender that contained a graphic image of a naked drawing meant to look like me.”(Sexual Harassment via Graphic Drawings)

• “Someone edited my face in sexual photos and/or videos I did not consent to, I am tagged in social media posts that contain sexually explicit images, videos or messages”

• "While on a video call, he suddenly exposed himself, saying, ‘I just want to show you how much I like you.’ I felt disgusted and violated." (Non-Consensual Exposure Online)